I'm with you, fansmom - Al is NOT my kind of role model!
And I think the idea of having no expectations of other people
enhances our ability to accept them....maybe... But how about
our ability to accept ourselves
?? Is that linked to having no
Oh oh, here's comes a headache!
If I have no expectations of others , then whatever they say, whatever turns them on, would be sort of fascinating. If I had expectations, then the potential increases them not to meet the expectations.
Having no expectations of ourselves, enhancing our ability to accept ourselves?
Not necessarily, I say. Probably not.
Accept ourselves how?
There was one time in my life when all my expectations of myself went flying through the window. I got rid of the 'Super Woman Syndrome' immediately after giving birth to twins. There's only so much a person with only two hands can do. I just took the most dangerous situation first. I don't think that throwing out my expectations increased my ability to accept myself. It did increase my abilty to stay under control under unnerving circumstances though. Therefore, others view me differently than they once did.
How does one begin to accept oneself?
...I guess by have a sense of purpose or goal in one's life. Perhaps. Also, putting down society's expectations and picking up your own, then you're better able to accept yourself.
For example: Thinking of any stereotypical ideal your parents told you growing up as a boulder on your shoulders. Mine was 'men are all crap'. Once I put that down, and stopped beleiving it, realizing that it was someting that was put onto me, not my beleif, then I was able to develop my own ideas and better accept myself. I find that when I have expectations, I run into trouble.
Soooo, come to think of it, Antoine, puts down all his boulders society places on him, and I think, accepts himself for who he is.
“The scariest enemy is from within. Allowing yourself to be limited and conform to what you're expected to conform to.”~JD