ALWD Question #13 - Rainy Days and Mondays...and Holidays?

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ALWD Question #13 - Rainy Days and Mondays...and Holidays?

Unread postby Liz » Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:22 am

Pg. 217. Maureen: Do people get sad on holiday sometimes? I can imagine they do, having all that time to think.

Do you ever get sad on holiday?
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Unread postby lumineuse » Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:46 am

Assuming that she means "holiday" in the British sense of the word, I would have to say no. I've never been on a vacation where I had ANY spare time. I usually beat myself to a pulp trying to see and do everything. I am not a lay around on the beach kind of person. The only thing that makes me sad on vacation is the prospect of it being over!
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Unread postby Liz » Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:53 am

I hear ya there, Lumi. It's the last day that makes me sad. In fact, you could even call it major depression. And lying around on the beach is my kind of vacation. But I have plenty going on in my head while lying there--and it's all good. Just soaking up the scenery is enough for me.

BTW my personal opinion is that Maureen is referring to a vacation as opposed to a holiday such as Christmas.
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Unread postby Endora » Thu Nov 17, 2005 11:09 am

I'm sure you are right about her meaning a vacation, not a bank holiday as we call them here.
Yes, I always feel sad on holidays. I really agree with Maureen that having too much time to think just leads to melancholy. I even feel this to an extent on busy holidays. Something about the quiet of holidays always makes me think about the futility of what we do everyday, chasing deadlines and attending to things that don't really matter. But I know I'm the depressive type, so I'm best kept busy.
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Unread postby Betty Sue » Thu Nov 17, 2005 11:10 am

Can't recall ever being sad on vacation either. I'll worry a bit ahead of time about leaving home activities (I am SO indispensable :rolleyes:) and about plane and car crashes :-O , but once I get to my destination I get completely absorbed in it and truly enjoy the moment. I can see that Maureen might get sad, however, with the situation with her son and her rather withdrawn personality.
Liz and Lumi, I can't say that I get depressed about the vacation being over. One of the good things for me is appreciating being home again.
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Unread postby Gilbert's Girl » Thu Nov 17, 2005 12:08 pm

No I've never felt sad on holiday either, too busy having a good time doing and seeing. Even when I worked and had the odd day off I never felt sad or unhappy .

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Unread postby cait » Thu Nov 17, 2005 2:15 pm

I don't feel sad on vacation. Sometimes I miss home but I know that in a short period of time, I'll be back. I like getting on a plane because it means that I'm going somewhere! The last day of vacation can be sad if you've had a great time. It can also be a bit sad to leave, knowing that it will be a while before coming back again.
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Unread postby Liz » Thu Nov 17, 2005 2:34 pm

I feel the need to add that since the fall of 2003 I have missed my computer on vacations where I haven't brought my laptop and thus was unable to check in with the Zone or email. Plus I miss my dog.
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Unread postby cait » Thu Nov 17, 2005 2:43 pm

Liz wrote:I feel the need to add that since the fall of 2003 I have missed my computer on vacations where I haven't brought my laptop and thus was unable to check in with the Zone or email. Plus I miss my dog.


I miss the Zone too when I'm gone on vacation. I miss chatting and reading the current news. I like going to new places but it's the comfort of home and the small things that I do each day that I miss the most.
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Unread postby DeppInTheHeartOfTexas » Thu Nov 17, 2005 3:19 pm

I don't feel sad on vacation either but I sure get to feeling blue sometimes after I get home because I am sad it's over or like today when I'm missing all the great people I spent time with last week! :bawl: But as the saying goes...Don't be sad because it's over...be happy because it happened. :cool:
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Unread postby QueenofKings » Thu Nov 17, 2005 4:11 pm

I so rarely have gotten a real vacation in the last few years. There is no way I'd be sad on vacation now. But in the past I have left for vacations at some really strange times in my life. We took care of my FIL when he was dying at home and I used 2 weeks of leave to do that. I went to the funeral, but didn't go to the cemetary for the burial. I had a vacation planned with my sister, and while my husband was busy with the burial and the church stuff afterward, my sister and I were on a plane heading to LA for 10 days. I had some mixed feelings about that.
I also tend to fly on holidays a lot and people are either really, really happy to be going somewhere or really, really depressed. I used to spend Christmas morning with my fam in New York and then fly to LA to spend Christmas evening with the rest of my family.
The last day of vacation is hard sometimes. I have gotten depressed thinking that my vacation is over and I'm going to miss hanging out with my family and my friends. But I have also had vacations where I missed sleeping in my own bed and just wanted to get back home. But I think those kinds of feelings are really ones that lots of people generally have.
I think Maureen just hadn't had a vacation in so long at that point and didn't know how to have fun or know what to do on vacation or how to not think about responsibility. Like there are people who don't know how to feel good about anything anymore.

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Unread postby Jackslady » Thu Nov 17, 2005 4:42 pm

I agree with everyone, I only feel sad on holiday when I have to think about coming home!

I do think being away for a while really helps you to refocus and appreciate home more :cool:
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Unread postby Bix » Thu Nov 17, 2005 4:42 pm

I don't think I am ever sad on vacation, although I do really get the blues the week after also, DITHOT. I don't want to grocery shop or cook, so I don't eat properly, etc. But while I am away, I seem to be able just to stay in the new moment. I don't watch tv or read the newspaper and I try to avoid going places with too many Americans around. I can just sit in a cafe or on the balcony and watch the world go by and be perfectly content for hours on end. It would seem that I would have too much time to think and might make myself sad, as Maureen said, but somehow I never think about the me that relates to home, I am just the me on holiday for that time. :-?
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Unread postby gilly » Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:25 pm

When I get away for my respite weekends,usually down to mum's....and when we go away as a family,which, due to circumstances,is a rare thing...I never get sad...I do miss the Zone and Zoners and Johnny,but I make up for it when I get back. :capnjack: ..But coming back home is always an adjustment,especially if I'm the one who has gone away...there is a bit of ''who's the stranger?'' and ''Why did you desert us?''...a bit of emotional punishment,but I'm good at ignoring that. :cool:
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Unread postby Theresa » Thu Nov 17, 2005 10:26 pm

Bix wrote:...somehow I never think about the me that relates to home, I am just the me on holiday for that time. :-?

I like that statement, Bix. I think I'm the same way. Almost as soon as I start on vacation, I just don't think about home --


-- although this year, it took me several days to leave home behind. My mom even threatened to leave me at a public library so I could get on the computer and check in on the Zone. :eyebrow:


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