Not to sound trite, but I think theirs is the ultimate meeting of mind and spirit, if not body. Patti was very careful to never use the term “soulmate”…. But if ever there was a case for it, this might be it.
So what is their relationship?It’s the unwavering belief in the talent and possibility of the other person.
Each encourages, pushes, challenges the other, and in doing so, helps the other to achieve new heights. Each believes wholly in the other’s work, and their ability. Not that they see the other as infallible, but rather they see the ultimate potential of the other. One believes, conveys to, and convinces the other that they can achieve anything they put their mind to. And that belief is 100% honest.It’s the deepest respect for the other, in all manners
. Always considering the other’s view, and the other’s needs. Not only being considerate of, but actually considering
. Pondering their views and needs, discussing, giving feedback.
“Nobody sees as we do
”. I can’t define their relationship without coming back to this line. I didn’t respond yesterday, but I’m in complete concurrence with Buster
on this one. Yup, she nailed it! I’m going to pull part of her post over here and add my thoughts regarding their relationship…
I think this is what actually lies at the heart of the book - that Patti and Robert had a connection, a closeness, that made their love for each other inevitable. It is the reason for the book - to try and explain the basically inexplicable: the magic that happens when two complimentary/congruent minds meet.
They were both on the same mission, to make sense of the world through artistic expression. They "got" each other's artistic vocabulary - the icons, the mysticism, the classical feel - and recognised their own shared rock and roll urges.
was acknowledging that shared universe - a place where she was understood - no longer an "outsider".
Whenever he said things like that, for a magical space of time, it was (as) if we were the only two people in the world.
Two people, similar in mind and spirit, finding their own inner peace and inner joy, outside the boundaries of society, through each other. It not only represents their full acceptance of, but actually celebrates
the fact that they are different, and that very, very few people are going to understand them or see things the way they see them. When you spend your entire life under the belief that you are wholly unique, abnormal, unable to fit inside the molds that society has created for you… and then you find some else who sees things as you see them, who thinks, by and large, as you think, who is as unique and abnormal as you… it is phenomenally uplifting. It can bring to an end a sometimes painful isolation. But much more than that, it gives strength, it gives life, it exudes joy, and it allows love and creativity to flow.
I think the first time that line appeared was page 80, after Robert and Patti spent time apart and Robert had his first male affair in San Francisco:
“Yet if he was gratified in one sense, he seemed uninspired, if not bored, and perhaps couldn’t help drawing comparisons between the atmosphere of their life to ours.”
“Patti, nobody sees as we do,” he told me.
Sexually Robert needed someone else, but in all other respects, he needed Patti. There's something very magical that happens when mind and spirit meet that far transcends the physical. They shared a love in the deepest sense of the word.(Side note: Yeah, that "no one sees as we do" line went straight to my heart and brought tears to my eyes for very personal reasons – someone once, long ago, said much the same thing to me . When you asked what passages resonated with us, well, I guess I fell into "the whole darn book" category, but that line especially just killed me. ...Ironically, I'm probably not alone in that thought.)