Pixie wrote: Ophelia wrote:
Gilbert's Girl wrote:Now thats just weird, so if you go into labour at night and go to hospital and want an epidural you can't because its not daytime.
Outside of working hours, most anaesthesiologists only perform emergency procedures and childbirth isn't an emergency.. So if you go into labour at night and have to go to the hospital for some reason, you're out of luck.. If it's a risky labour, you're usually induced.. during working hours
One of my Dutch friends was in that situation about a decade ago. She was in labour at night and she was refused an epidural in hospital. She could not cope with the pain and was so desperate, that in the middle of labour her husband took her across the border to a Belgium hospital where she was freely given an epidural. Different country, different rules.
I absolutely cannot imagine picking up and moving during the middle of labor, let alone crossing a border. But then again, when the going got tough, I opted for the drugs (epidural) so who knows what I would or would not have been willing to do at that point!GG
- Morphine? Over an epidural?
Pixie wrote: Liz wrote:
Yes, I think traditionally that men were not involved. And based on Woody's writing of it, women preferred it that way.
fireflydances wrote:Today's men seem to be more completely involved. I do wonder if they are feeling, in general, more and more competent to handle birth?
I was completely taken aback when a few years ago a friend of mine and her husband decided that it wasn't for them if he attended the birth of their first child. He explained that he could not bear seeing his wife in so much pain and that it would spoil the memory of the joyous occasion. She agreed with that and also didn't think her husband would be able to offer her the practical support she would need when giving birth. So instead they opted to have her sister as a birthing partner. They knew of other couples like them and it seems that those traditional values have come full circle with a minority of couples in this day and age.
, I can certainly understand your friends' point of view! My husband, bless him, went through all the classes, but when the time came he had a really rough go of it, especially with our first one. The doctor asked him if he wanted to see the head crowning, see his son, cut the cord, and so on, but the poor guy just absolutely couldn't look and had to refuse all of it. His eyes were completely locked onto mine, his knees were buckling and the color draining from his face. He couldn't even turn his head. He certainly would've passed out. They finally made him lay down and a nurse brought him some cold rags.
So much for my partner!
My mother had the anethesia with all three of us and doesn't remember a thing while my dad waited in the waiting room. In fact the story goes that he was annoyed at having to leave the tv during the middle of a Cubs game when it was time to bring my mom to the hospital.
So I really wanted my husband to be part of the birth of our children. In retrospect, a sister or a good female friend seems like a really great idea! Yes, I've come full circle on this one!